There’s very little difference between my ‘intuitive side gig’ and my ‘oober professional day job’ in terms of turning my intuition off. It’s always on, even if I don’t need it to be. That nagging feeling of ‘did you check such and such report to make sure that calculated correctly even though you know it’ll get audited later’ pops up sporadically and I’m always surprised when it turns out that following my gut paid off. That’s right – you heard it here; I’m surprised when my intuition is on point.
Most people don’t expect for me to feel that way, but developing intuition for others is SO MUCH EASIER in comparison to developing intuition for yourself. Once you understand that listening to yourself will be a challenge, half the battle is already won. It’s like reverse psychology – where you tell yourself ‘I know this is going to be really difficult, so I’m going to manage my expectations.’ The challenge comes from separating the ‘noise’ from the ‘truth’. When you’re dealing with someone else’s situation, there is less noise because you’re just taking in what they’re telling you. When you’re dealing with yourself, you’ve got so many different things mentally competing for your attention, like fear. In case you weren’t aware, fear is an attention whore. And if you give it even a little attention, it will beg for more. Don’t indulge in fear.
Developing self-trust is really important when you’re trying to nurture your intuition. You have to coax it out of it’s hiding place and convince it that you’re not going to judge it, or make grandiose expectations of it. There’s a self-vallidation process that you go through where you might be verbally silent about what you feel, and you just sort of wait and see what happens. Ultimately, when things end up the way you felt they would, that’s the perfect time to say ‘Yes! I knew it! I was right!’ I like to call this ‘Silent Validation’. Some of us aren’t so silent about it… but you get the point.
Taking the time to acknowledge when you’re right about something is important because it’s part of cultivating self-trust. If this doesn’t come easy to you, that’s okay. Most of us don’t even realize we have intuition because we don’t identify with the word ‘Intuition’ or the high expectations of it’s connotations. Intuition, instinct, gut-feeling – they all mean the same thing. In order to clearly feel them, you have to filter out the things you don’t need, like fear and expectation.
Here’s a fun exercise: Spend some time being silent and observe your surroundings. See if you can predict what might happen next, especially if you’re in a public place. Pay attention to how you feel and pay attention to different images that might pop into your head. While sitting in a cafe, you might see the woman at the counter ordering her coffee drop something in your mind… and then ten minutes later it could happen. You’ll think you were crazy… or that it was a fluke. BUT IT WAS INTUITION. (I didn’t mean to yell, I just get excited about these things!)
And if you do happen to partake in this exercise, leave a comment with what your experience was like!